Meditation and life in India changed me. I no longer crave for change, new things or experiences. I’m happy with what I have.
I used to love going shopping with my mom but the last time we spend time together in England and Portugal we both realized how different we became – we still loved going for long walks together but I no longer had the passion of window-shopping and buying which she still retained. Even in my dreams my mother always takes me shopping:)
Although I miss South India – I’ve been now in Nepal for around three months – the teachings of Nisargadatta Maharaj remind me that this part of India is not external but in me, which gives me much comfort.
Also knowing how heavily militarized India is now and that locals even attack foreigners out of fear of the over-hyped virus (which may be a simple flu or a little bit more aggressive form of it), makes me happy to stay where I am. South India is probably the last desire to transcend, and I also do love the ocean very much.
Apart from that I don’t have desires. This contentment with how things are embraces my whole life. I have no desire to buy new clothes, none whatsoever. I also don’t care how I’m perceived by others, but for the love of my boyfriend I do change my outfit when I’m in his area.
It’s because of the people that he knows that he would ask me to wear different clothes, but since he doesn’t have any friends here in Nepal he’s fine with me wearing anything. So I wear different clothes in South India so that not to create any friction but here in Nepal I wear the same things all the time.
Were I to be single I wouldn’t bother buying anything new. The clothes that I have are fine and I also have a needle and a thread to fix them. If they really wear out then only I would buy new ones, and there’s the feeling of satisfaction to use a thing fully rather than to throw it when it can still be used. This is wastefulness and consumerism, and these two contribute to human unhappiness.
I don’t want to promote a wasteful life on my social media accounts so I feel happy to wear the same things all the time when I film myself. I also find that if you’re happy with yourself you won’t feel the need to always reinvent yourself, yet people who don’t accept their own selves always feel the need to change something about their appearance.
The same minimalism lifestyle applies to my accessories. I have two pairs of earrings with which I’m very happy. They are good quality and are associated with beautiful memories. My flower-like earbuds are from some kind of metal that doesn’t rust and doesn’t give me pain in ears like cheap metals do, and I bought this pair in my favorite Style Plus store in Trivandrum. I love walking in that area.
My silver Ganesha-Sun-sign earrings were purchased in one of the oldest antique shops in Kochi (which is an island in India).
I find that if you always use the same items they take on your energy and start really matching you. They become almost a part of you. This reminds me of my grandmother who always used to wear the same pearl earrings and the same watch. She came from non-consumerism times when people valued what they bought.
Her watch stopped exactly the minute she died. That’s how part of her the watch has become.
When we continue changing accessories and clothes, their energies impact us. When we wear the same things, we change those items with our energy. Not to say that such a lifestyle saves a lot of money.
I hold the same view on food. I don’t desire to eat anything special and different. We eat pretty much the same thing every day. We make food on a travel cooker and sometimes my boyfriend makes some Indian dish and sometimes I make something Indian or European.
Eating healthy home-made food every day became a habit and I no longer want to go to any restaurants. Why to ruin the stomach with elaborate foods with chemical additives to enhance their taste when you can cook something with the ingredients that are healthy.
The same applies to the place of living. I already found my favorite place to live in South India. I call it my home and I would never leave it if I could. But due to the evil system we live in, we can’t decide where to live, so because of this I’m forced to buy visas and to fly with airplanes which I’d rather not which contribute to the pollution of this world.
I’m also happy to live in a room with an attached bathroom. I could happily live this way all my life, as long as there’s nature to enjoy. I find that being in nature most of the time is much healthier, and that the shelter is required only for one to sleep in and to protect oneself from harsh weather.
How wasteful it is for millionaires and billionaires to hoard money, buy palaces or even islands that they hardly use, when so many others don’t even have a roof over their heads. This excess of money creates imbalance and those who have excess cannot be happy because they live against the way that the nature does.
There is no waste in nature. It uses and reuses and uses up everything, even plastic. Eventually even this toxic waste deteriorates into particles which become the earth, the fertilizer of plants.
If we act in a way similar to nature we will feel our lives much more meaningful. We don’t have to buy new things as soon as something goes wrong with old ones. We can buy a quality item and then if something goes wrong with it, we can fix it.
Consumerism lifestyle of always changing things for new ones carries over into human relationships. People no longer fix broken marriages and relationships but seek new ones. This ends up producing more unhappiness and less meaning in life.
If we lived the nature’s way, we would need very little to survive. We wouldn’t need to slave five days a week in some office. Instead, we could build small businesses based on what we love and do with our days what we please.
But the consumerist culture cannot be rooted out only through information as such. People need to stop following the trends of the system and tune into their own selves, as well as stay in nature. Then they will recognize natural rhythms of their own selves and of the world and will gradually revert to the wholesome way of living.