My name is Simona Rich and I’m a self improvement blogger.
From being stuck in a draining call-center job and suffering from a toxic relationship, I was able to turn my life around and craft it to my liking.
This page is about my journey – I hope it will inspire, empower and inform you, as these are my intentions behind everything I write.
My life a few years back
During my school years I was a below average student. When I got my first job at the age of 16 things changed.
The job was horrible: I had to work 12 hours a day (the Lithuanian way:)) in a brightly lit huge supermarket and the music that was played was repeated over and over again.
On top of that, my manager was the most psychotic person I’ve ever met. She shouted at every employee in front of customers and people under her management quit their jobs frequently there.
Because of this torture I experienced, I realized that if I stayed average in school, I would stay average in all areas of my life. I already envisioned myself working for such a manager for the rest of my life. That was enough of a kick in the ass to change my situation.
My first bold step
From the age of 16 I started studying extra hard to become the best student, at least in English. I knew that the quickest way to change my life was to score the best grade in the English state exam and get a scholarship to study abroad.
I saw this as my only way out since I was from a poor family so there weren’t many options open.
I stayed at home all the time and did all I could to excel in English. I listened to the BBC radio, read only English books and tried thinking in English only. I had no social time after school.
When I naturally started thinking in English and dreaming about England, I knew I would make it.
I scored 100% in the English state exam – nobody else got this percentage. I also got a scholarship to study in England. My dream came true, and I finally felt free and full of hope.
After the enrollment I flew to the UK to study tourism. My mom had to borrow money to buy me a flight ticket. She was the only person at the airport, saying goodbye to me, with eyes filled with tears.
I promised to myself to repay the flight ticket money, and all my mom had to spend for me throughout years. That was a big motivation, and it pushed me to quickly find a job whilst other students were partying before the start of their studies. In a few years’ time I repaid my mother for all her investment in my happiness.
Quite a lot of students had to eventually fly back to their countries because they weren’t able to find jobs after days of partying – the vacancies were gone. That taught me the importance of being early, being first and doing exactly the opposite of what the majority does.
I started working as a receptionist in a game arcade which I liked, but managers kept asking me to do overtime work which I couldn’t because of studies. One day, a week after refusing to do overtime work, I got a letter saying that I was made redundant.
Great. I had two choices now. I could either feel sorry for myself and be angry about the unfairness of the situation or I could think how I could turn this around. Fortunately, I chose the latter option.
My job search started again. By this time I had discontinued my studies because the subject was dry and boring. I realized that in the UK degrees don’t matter as much as in Lithuania. It didn’t make sense to study for 4 years and then get a job at a pay lower than someone who started at the age of 18 and made their way to the top.
Finally, I found a job as a waitress in one restaurant in a shopping center. The pay was basic, but I earned good tips. However, it scared me to see so many people working there for years and being afraid to change a thing in their lives.
When I would talk about quitting job, employees would remind me about the difficult job situation in England and that I may not get any job at all.
Despite the discouragements, as soon as I saved enough money to survive without a job for several months, I decided to quit.
How I realized that I was stuck
In around a week’s time I found another job as a small university’s secretary. That didn’t last long since the university never took off and eventually had to close.
Shortly I started to work for a market research company. My position involved calling businesses to conduct all kinds of surveys.
That was the worst job I’ve ever had, but I kept working there because it provided good money and I could choose my own hours.
Two years passed in the same employment and only then did I realize that I was stuck. I think what awoke me was the death of one employee. She got nowhere in her life. She had an average job and lived in an average home alone.
She died alone and was discovered only after a week, since she had only a few friends. That’s the sad part of living in England – some people are very lonely and when they die nobody knows or cares about.
Even with this new understanding about being stuck I was scared to change a thing because I got very comfortable with my life. My life wasn’t nice (in fact, when I think about it, it was far below “nice”), but I felt secure. I had constant income, a warm home and I could afford to travel once in a while.
How I turned my life around
As soon as I came to the UK I also got stuck in a relationship that was going nowhere.
I was with a person that was completely opposite to who I was and our love vanished as fast as it started.
That time was really tough on me but I just couldn’t find the courage to leave after years of being together. What kept me with him was his stability, and I think what kept him with me was my impulsive nature.
That’s how almost three years in the UK passed – with a boyfriend I didn’t love and in a market research job I hated. It seemed that my life would always stay the same.
But that wasn’t meant to be…
I remember vividly the day my life changed.
It was a cold, humid, dark gray day, as most days in England are. I finished my call center work and was walking to the bookshop.
Going home didn’t seem that inviting because the person that was at home was the one I wanted to see the least.
Whilst walking, a thought came into my mind:
“Is that all life can offer me?”
It was a strange thought – I never had such a thought before.
It awakened something in me, something that I sensed was very important, yet I couldn’t understand what.
This thought stayed in my mind all the time while I was walking to the bookshop.
When I entered the bookshop, one book caught my eye. I knew I had to buy it, so I did. It was “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” by Robert Kiyosaki.
It made me addicted to self help books and started a real change in my life.
After reading many self-help books and attending different seminars, I began to gradually turn my life around.
I started the habit of positive thinking, I visualized my ideal life and made colorful vision boards to saturate my mind with. I used NLP, inner coaching and positive affirmations to rewire my brain for it to start functioning on a higher level.
I dealt with my limiting beliefs and closed my mind to the damaging suggestions of other people.
In less than a year I completely got rid of fear, split up with my partner, quit my job, started experimenting with self employment and started to really enjoy my life.
After starting many different businesses I finally discovered that I loved sharing my life experiences with people through writing. That’s how this self improvement blog was born.
My life now
I just recently moved to London to rest from my travels in Asia. I lived in South India for three years, with frequent travels all around India and neighboring countries.
I’m not sure about the future of our relationship since it involves two people, so you never know. I enjoy our time together, but I’m not attached, and the relationship with my self is what’s most important.
The house I rented in South India was 3 minutes from the ocean where I enjoyed beautiful, jungle-like nature. It was a total dream come true, and exactly what I visualized in the past.
I would often sit in a bamboo cafe sipping spiced Indian chai and looking at the ocean.
When it was monsoon in South India, I would stay in my favorite sea-side restaurant curled up in a soft chair reading some self-help book and then have some hot rice and almond curry.
I did yoga each morning on my house rooftop (except when it was raining) overlooking numerous coconut trees. Yoga filled me with peace and happiness for the rest of the day.
I absolutely loved my stay in India, but an urge within me grew to come back to London to share what I learnt from my travels and growth. So I’m back in London to run some events and to rest from travels.
I enjoy the stability here. I needed it after trips to Indian cities, Nepal, Sri Lanka and Thailand (where I was robbed, by the way).
I’m renting a house with two lovely Chinese sisters living upstairs (they’re house owners). The house is in a quiet and neat neighborhood, so it’s perfect for my writing. My productivity tripled since the move.
India taught me that happiness is hidden in simplicity. I’m continuing this tradition in London. My life is very simple – I have very few social interactions; I stay at home a lot; I write, write, write because sharing my experiences with the world fills me with happiness. Everyone should do more of what makes them happy.
I’m not rich by the modern definition of this word, although my name is Simona Rich (I changed my surname)
I don’t own anything I can’t buy outright. My life is very simple. This simplicity fills me with peace and happiness.
Free yourself from the world’s complexities to uncover the bare bones of what makes you happy. That’s a recipe for success.
You’re always welcome to email me (simonarich1 (at) gmail.com) your suggestions, feedback or questions – I’m here to help!
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All the best in your self improvement journey!
I created this blog in late December 2008 for people who are spiritually awakening and want to improve themselves.
My posts are born out of life experiences and observations:
- deep, thoughtless meditations
- finding inner peace and balance
- practicing yoga
- failures and successes (failures teach much more)
- traveling on my own
My current blog themes are two – Self-Mastery and Clarity. You can read about my new blogging direction and some personal questions answered here.
Sometimes you’ll come across contradicting pieces of advice on this blog. This blog is 5 years old, almost 6, so my awareness changed significantly in these years and what was correct to me a few years ago might not hold true today.
For example, a few years ago I perceived spirituality to be separate from the physical world, yet now I see mind, body and spirit as an inter-connected whole. It was useful for me to focus only on spirituality, though, because I was lacking that aspect. Now my posts are more integrated, as the spiritual side of my life is rich.
Use your intuition to choose which advice is good for you at the moment, instead of taking it all.
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