It’s considered normal in our society to hide behind the mask of happiness and success.
You may be the most miserable being on earth, yet you must not show that.
This attitude creates many problems.
It keeps emotions suppressed inside which manifest later on as diseases. It also makes problems seem bigger than they are, and the person may miss out on help easily available from outside. The person may not even be able to help oneself, if the mask is worn in privacy also.
Superficial layer of happiness and success
The saddest human being I came across wasn’t some homeless person in a poor Indian city; it was a renowned large newspaper editor living in central London.
She always had this wonderful facade of success and happiness which she showed to everyone. She had an air of inapproachability about her, because she built such a wall around her with a slogan – “I’m better than anyone else because I hold a very high position in the society”.
Because of this slogan and walls around her, others could in no way approach her to offer help. And help she needed indeed – she was a wretched soul, doing what she hated, wanting very much to break through in life, to work for herself and to have a harmonious family life, which she lacked.
I’m not saying it’s good to burden others with your problems; I’m telling to be honest about your situation with others, because if you’re honest about your problems with the world at large, you’re honest about your problems with your own self. And if that’s the case, help must come, from outside or from within – it doesn’t matter, really.
A fake society
When I was living in UK I witnessed many fake people. In my country, Lithuania, if people are unhappy, they don’t say that they are fine. However, in UK, all you hear is that people are fine, and that everything’s ok, and that they are very happy, and so on.
This kind of attitude makes people helpless. Through constant repetition that they are fine, they suppress their issues deep within, and it becomes harder for the Universe to help them.
It’s not that they use this sentence “I am fine” as a positive affirmation. They use it as a cover-up. If they would try to improve their lives, they would use this sentence as a medicine, knowing that it can heal. However, the way they use it, it serves more like a light covering of a deep hole, and they know all the time that the hole is there.
A knife can be used for cutting a cake to eat it, or for self-hurt. It’s a tool and different people will use it in different ways. The same can be said about the language – intention counts here. If you use some word with the hope of it healing you, it will start the healing process. If you use a word as a lie for hiding something, it will accomplish exactly that.
The middle path
It’s easy to get into extremes with regards to your problems. Some people tend to act as helpless victims, firmly believing they are. They are more than ready to tell their whole life’s story to anyone who cares to listen and to burden others with all their problems. This leaves them totally disempowered, and they believe they are too weak to help themselves.
Others, especially men, keep all the problems inside and sometimes even hide problems from their own selves. They act like everything’s okay with them, yet inside they’re wounded. They don’t realize that some people see right through them, and this fake mask of strength and confidence they’re wearing looks horrible. They’re hiding their own souls behind it.
This attitude manifests stress and body diseases, because suppressed emotions finally manifest into these confusing physical or mental states.
The middle path, however, is the healthiest path. If you have problems, don’t hide that you have them, but don’t burden others with them either. Acknowledge to yourself and others that your life is not perfect and that some adjustments need to be made.
Telling to others about your life the way it is shows your humbleness and honesty; whilst those who act happy and successful only show their inflated egos to the world. Also, if you clearly state the problem (acknowledge it to yourself and others), the solution becomes clearer.
It’s not true that problems should be ignored and covered up, as some law of attraction followers tend to do. A pile of waste covered with a blanket in the corner of your room doesn’t disappear. It rots and starts smelling.
It needs to be cleared, and the best way to do that is to firstly acknowledge that it’s there, and describe exactly what it is. Don’t exaggerate the problem or make it smaller than it is. Describe it briefly, mentioning all the important points. Then be attentive; if you believe the solution will reach you in some way, it will.
It’s important not to give power to the problem, so that it wouldn’t grow. It means you shouldn’t channel your emotions to it. Be unemotional about it.
Make it clear to your mind once, and then turn your attention to the solution which is coming, and not to the problem.
Show your real self to the world
The first step of destroying the mask of deception, therefore, is to acknowledge to your own self that you have problems. You can write them down, and look at them, just don’t channel any emotions into them.
In a neutral way, read out your problems – this may make the right solutions to your problems instantly come into your mind.
The next step is to be honest about your situation with others. If someone asks how you are, don’t tell you are fine, if you’re not. Tell that currently there are some issues that need to be solved. Again, keep the mind clear – don’t get involved into negative emotions.
Finally, know that your call for help is heard, and because you were honest with yourself and the world, the solutions to your problems will manifest in one way or another. Be aware and on the lookout for help offers, as well as the solutions to your problems.
Help can come in many ways and many forms – a piece of advice from a friend, a helpful book, a line from a conversation, even a scene from a movie… it’s limitless how help can reach you, because the Universe is limitless.
When you get help as such, you will realize that it’s harmful to wear the mask of success and happiness, as it serves only to shield you from the help that’s widely available.
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