You Can Change Your Past – Here Are 3 Methods

You can change your pastIt’s not true that only future is changeable.

Past can be changed too, because it’s nothing more but energy. Time, as you may already know, is only an illusion.

If you know with your heart that the above two statements are correct – that everything is energy and that time is an illusion – it becomes easy to change your past.

Negative childhood events leave the biggest impact on us, and thus influence our present moment and the future in a bigger way than most realize. Therefore, it’s important to delete major negative events of the childhood, so as to avoid our present and future from being negatively impacted by them.

You can try at this very moment to change your past.

To do that, you need to be in a quiet place where you won’t be disturbed for 10 minutes or more.

Think of the most disturbing childhood event that still has a firm grip on your life. Once you know what this event is, you can do any of these three things – read through all three methods and choose the one that resonates with you most.

A note: you should only attempt these exercises if you’re not happy with your present and thus want to change it.

The NLP way to change your past

Recreate the event in your mind as realistically as you can. Become a child again, and see the event through the child’s eyes. Do it now.

Next, again recreate the same event, but now look at it from an observer’s perspective, and thus you will see the child that was you in that experience.

Now, again recreate the event, but see yourself as sitting in a cinema and watching this event as a movie. The next time you should play this movie in black and white, and the next time it should be fast-forwarded.

The last time you should play it backwards, and then you should go behind the scenes, take out the movie tape and burn it.

The event should lose grip on you from now on. If not, repeat this exercise a few more times. When you feel real relief inside, know that this event can no longer impact your life.

Creative thinking to change your past

Remember the negative childhood event the way it happened and play it in your mind once, looking at it as an observer.

Now, imagine the event the way you wanted it to take place. You can make it as perfect and as positive as you want, but it should remain realistic. If you add little things and details to the event, your mind will become more convinced that it’s real.

Play your own version of the event as though you’re observing it at first, and the second time (and other times to follow) you should play the event by looking through the child’s eyes.

Play this version of the past event in bright colors a few more times, until you feel relief and a belief arises in you that this event did take place. You may need to repeat this event in your mind a few more days for the mind to start believing it did take place.

The mind is easy to convince – it gets convinced through repetition. (It’s important to repeat the event in exactly the same way every time.)

Talking to the child you were

The last way to change your past is to play the event in your mind the way it happened, from an observer’s perspective. Then, after the event, call the child that you were in the past over, and explain what happened in a way that the child would not be affected by what happened.

For example, if the child witnessed a heated argument of the parents or even physical violence, you can say to that child that many adults are not that intelligent, and sometimes they behave like small children.

You can explain that some adults only know how to solve problems by violence. You can add that later they will be happy again, but this time they are too involved in the argument to understand how foolish they look.

Say anything that would make the child happier and at ease. Once you feel the child is okay, affirm that the child is loved and that the child is good, and then leave.


It is indeed possible to change your past. However, if you believe that it isn’t going to happen, nothing will change in your life.

Therefore, only those people who firmly know that everything is energy and thus even physical things can be altered, would succeed in changing their past with the three above methods.

If you successfully change the past event, there will be a big change in your life the same day or within a few days. That’s because your life’s plan needs to adjust, since one major event got deleted/altered.

You can change as many negative events this way as you wish in order to get unstuck in life; choose the method out of three which feels best for your situation. Different events may require different methods – experiment to find out which method works for which situation.

If you have something to say, please comment below.

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  1. Dear Simona,

    I enjoy your posts very much and I think they are indeed very helpful. I have one question and would greatly appreciate it if you could reply; do you physically alter these events, not only in your own mind but in those of everyone else? For example, if you change a childhood memory in which for example your mother was involved, would your mother’s memory of the event be altered as well?

    I am afraid that if I convince my brain the past happened in a different way than I currently remember it having happened, I will be the only one who’s memory was altered and people will think that I have gone nuts.


  2. Linda eedy says:

    Hey would if you don’t really remember before you were like,say before i was about 8 or 9?Like its not amnesia (i hope not) and i’ve never had a concussion before.Although i dont seem to recall any memories from when i was younger and when i always do assignments in class about when we were younger its really hard to do the assignments when i dont recall such memories.

  3. Hi Simona,
    First of all I would like to thank you for all of your positive work that you are putting out into the world! I do not recall exactly how I stumbled upon your blog but I am very grateful that I did as many of the topics you speak about resonates with me.
    In particular, is my current struggle with trauma that I experienced in my childhood. I have been haunted by these experiences my entire life and just in the past few years have I been able to begin to comprehend what I experienced and begin to regain control of my life. Bit by bit I remember more and bit by bit I replace the shame, guilt and pain with acceptance that it happened and at the same time I try to separate myself from those strong emotions versus letting them consume me. And this practice I began after reading an article of yours. Only a short period of time has passed since I read it but your words have already helped me through some personal battles with strong negative emotions as I repeat to myself how I acknowledge those feelings and separate myself from them and their control over me. So for that Simona I thank you from the bottom of my heart.
    There are still many aspects that I want to change but your words give me courage as I fight for my freedom from my past. I recently cut off all ties with my family which has, I feel, excelled my healing and I did so intuitively but it is not a conventional action and as a result I find myself questioning my intentions to do so and if it’s the right approach.
    Reading your opening comment that we can change our past was greatly comforting and felt truthful in my heart. I will be adding your visual exercises to my arsenal and hopefully I too can change my past as it currently is very debilitating in many aspects of my life. Thank you again and thank you to the universe for introducing me to you.


    • Carlie, thank you for sharing your experiences with all. This comment will surely give hope and inspiration to those who still struggle with their painful past memories. I’m very happy to hear that my articles improved your life, thank you for taking time to write such a wonderful comment.

  4. dolly sharma says:

    thank you simona for giving me a great way to relax myself….u really help me alot

  5. Those techniques works and to just make a quick comment I think that it depends on the situation. You know, if you have conflicts with your relatives and they keep on acting the same way underestimating you, this works very little. It’s has to be clear if the problem still exists in the present and if it does, to fix the situation in the here and now. If the past is for instace an abuse, this method can be useful. It’s the same thing for beliefs. Most of them comes from past traumatic experiences and our “present self”, with a correct analysis, would consciously analyze them as they truly are, just events of the past. It happened to me when I had problems at school. Some girls were making fun of me but growing up (and meeting again those girl at a party) I saw things from a different prospective and understood their immaturity and their superficial egos. I think it depends on the situation. To me, the best thing is to build a new amazing future and create new experiences where my inner being can find happiness and joy. The past is the past. We need to be strong and just get what we deserve (the best of course ;) ) kisses :)

  6. Your advice is appreciated. I can see your intentions are to help. Hopefully, people who delve into past painful events (on their own) will do so knowing there is risk of getting stuck in them.

    What have you found to be an effective way to get yourself unstuck and moving forward again?

  7. Antoinette says:

    Thank you so much you’re so intuitive! x x x x x x x

  8. Thanks Simona this page will be bookmarked, I have tried this exercise and it is working like a charm. I feel relief but still needs to change a lot of my past childhood experiences. You are an angel in disguise.

    • I’m glad it’s working for you, Beatris – I also needed to alter many past events this way; little by little they’ll all get changed/deleted.

  9. Dear Simona,
    Sometimes I think you read my mind and explain answers to my questions! As I believe that time is nothing but illusion, recently I’ve thought about whether it’s right or not to altering the past (unpleasant) events.
    Now, I take your post as a sign that it’s completely right to do this. And I’m going to apply these wonderful methods.
    Thank you so much Simona!

  10. Thank you Simona for this wonderful post. This is exactly what I need now!
    Funnyb x

  11. Hello Simona. I wouldn’t normally comment on anther’s post, but this is something of which I have a lot of experience. People dealing with SEVERE traumatic events that have occurred in childhood, such as physical and sexual abuse need to approach any form of recollection or regression with care as the experience is often one of releasing and dealing with VOLATILE emotion. From a heightened spiritual awareness it is simple to look back on past events with a degree of optimistic tolerance and perspective, but in most cases this ‘regression’ into painful past experiences is often the BEGINNING steps towards true spiritual recovery/discover. As such, the individual may not have the strength and perspective to adequately deal with such an explosion of feeling and will often need a strong and understanding support network of friends/family/mentors/mental health providers etc. It is frequently the case that this ‘opening up’ or ‘revisiting’ will lead to an emotional instability that can last for days, weeks, months or even years (depending on the individual, their support network, and the severity of the traumatic event/s) and will often be characterized with depression and rage; self-harm and suicide being at the more extreme end of this spectrum. Part of my evolution has been this experience, and I understand it from both the perspective of the individual going through this process and from the heightened perspective of someone who has survived this process and grown tremendously since then. We each have our own unique perspectives on the evolutionary journey via our individual evolutionary experiences and should not necessarily give advice on experiences we ourselves have not undergone or studied in depth. Most importantly, we need to remember that it is not the enlightened who opens ‘Pandora’s Box’, and to the spiritually naive and inexperienced the forces that are unleashes are difficult to cope with; particularly if you are unprepared.

    • Thank you for your comment, Rob. I’m not a doctor, nor a psychologist – that’s why I have a blog’s disclaimer saying that. I can only advice people about the things that worked for me and my coaching clients. You seem to have a lot of experience with people who experienced traumas, so I’m grateful for your words or warning.

  12. Dear Simona

    Thank you for your nice post and for sharing it with me.

  13. Hi Simona,

    This is a very interesting article. Would we be able to apply these methods to traumatic events that happened a bit later in life, say as teens or young adults?

  14. Great methods, Simona! Maybe I’ll try them all. I remember in the movie, ‘what the bleep’, they were saying that in the quantum world, time is not linear. Thanks for the post!