In Gita, an ancient Indian text, it’s written that a doer of good never walks a path of misery.
I found this to be true.
Sometimes I meet people who seem lovely, yet they suffer in life.
It’s easy to conclude that life is unfair on them, yet staying with such people for a while will make you see the reasons why they suffer.
Usually such good people suffer because they can’t see beyond the duality, and thus fight what they perceive to be bad. Many foreigners in India, for example, fight against the mistreatment of Indian women or child labor. Some are very emotional about subjects such as ocean pollution or the caste system.
Such fighting against things wears people out and it doesn’t change much, because we live in the world of duality, where bad can’t be without good and vice versa. So even though someone would succeed in eliminating some wrong-doing, another must arise – it’s the law of duality.
Also, even though something good would replace something bad, it would still have a bad side, like bad would have a good side.
It’s easy to conclude that Indian men who abuse Indian women are bad, for example. However, Indian women allow men to be this way. They must learn their lessons of standing up for themselves and finding the strength within; they’re suffering because they refuse to learn their lessons. Thus those that seem to be good, yet suffer in life, do so because they deserve it, however cruel this may sound.
I remember one day visiting my dance teacher’s best friend from France. The French lady had been married to an Indian man for six years. I came to visit her together with my friend from Switzerland and there was one more Indian lady in the French woman’s apartment.
The conversation turned to Indian men. The French lady addressed two Indian women sitting next to her – my dance teacher and the other one. She asked when would they stand up and be strong (referring to the abuse from Indian men). An Indian lady next to my dance teacher sheepishly smiled and said “Maybe someday”.
This attitude clearly illustrates that they aren’t ready to change. They’re not ready to drop the role of a victim and become strong. There’s nothing anyone else can do to change such a situation – the change should come from inside.
Some people think of themselves as very good because they fight against a perceived dark side, and because of that they suffer a lot. Like a friend of mine, who is angry at almost every person because they fail to live up to her expectations.
She doesn’t understand that this is her personal understanding of life and that other people don’t have the same understanding. Such an inability to view the situation in different ways makes one stuck and miserable.
A friend of mine perceives herself as being very good and intelligent, and thus tries to advise others and make them live their lives according to her life model. When some people don’t listen to her, she gets upset and angry. In her head she’s really right and good, however that’s not how she is perceived by others.
The very fact that one is miserable should clearly show that there’s something that’s not right in them, even though their intelligence says they’re very good.
It’s so important to reflect on our actions and behavior. If we fail to do so, we may not notice that we have a very limited understanding of things or that we willingly play the role we suffer for.
If we fail to reflect on our actions and don’t monitor our thoughts, it’s easy to conclude that the world is unfair on us. However, when we understand that there’s no unfairness and that there’s always a reason for our suffering found inside, the world can become a happy place again.
If you have anything to say, leave a comment below.